Lawrence (Lance) Cantor
RHS FORUM SNUB & DISS CLUB -
CULTURAL & MEDIA DUPLICITY ARE EPIC ISSUES
I reply to what Wayne posted:
Lance,
If you cut and paste from one of my posts I would appreciate you giving me credit.
SORRY WAYNE, MY OVERSIGHT WAS NOT INTENDED AS A SNUB, WHICH IS FREQUENTLY MODELED HERE AS ACCEPTABLE. HOWEVER, WITH YOUR ATTROCIOUS SPELLING, I WAS RELUCTANT TO CREDIT AN ENGINEERING GRADUATE OF TEXAS A&M AS THE WRITER.
Do you agree with my post?
NAW…YOUR UNREPENTANT PENCHANT FOR DISSING TOMMY IS JUST A BUNCH OF HULLABALOO! https://www.aggienetwork.com/traditionsthroughtime/hullabaloo.aspx
I reply to what Jan posted:
Before everyone gets their panties in a wad... I still would eat an earthworm before being a republican....and I don't support Trump in the way he is handling things that I do agree with him on ,
PERHAPS YOU’D HELP UNWAD MY PANTIES, BY EXPLAINING WHAT THAT SENTENCE MEANS ABOVE?
but there is a vast amount of things that he is doing that goes against my beliefs regarding the constitution .
WHAT ARE YOUR BELIEFS ABOUT THE CONSTITUTION? WHAT’S TRUMP GOING AGAINST? DO YOU SEE HIS ACTIONS AS UNCONSTITUTIONAL?
He also lacks the emotional maturity and level of consciousness that is required in making decisions at a presidential level ; if you ask me.
OK. HE HOLDS WEEKLY PRESS CONFERENCES, AND PASSED HIS ANNUAL PHYSICAL SPENDIDLY. HOW CAN YOU BE UNACCOUNTABLE AS EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE, WHILE HYPOCRITICALLY BLAMING HIS IMMATURITY?
BUT the point of posting the Maher tape is that we act alot more civil in person face to face with each other than we do online and on social media outlets etc. Period... We are more respectful , kinder and we are more apt to show our true colors , which are usually more tasteful and acceptable to others ..
ARE YOU JUSTIFYING THAT SOCIAL DUPLICITY IS OK? (Read below for the truth).
We are friends and neigbhors , in reality.
NOT SO FAST JAN…I VISIT CRAZYTOWN HERE FOR DIVERSE REASONS.
FYI, IN REALITY, MY AUTHENTIC FRIENDS CALL ME ON THE PHONE, JOIN ME FOR LUNCH, AND ENJOY MY CHARMING COMPANY…IN PERSON.
David posted:
My suspicion is that members in the nearby mosques are mostly professionals. It is a different situation than in parts of Europe.
I reply to Janalu & David,
REFERENCED FROM POST
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Don’t be naive, David…spiritual deception is rampant. Your Muslim “professionals” are wolves in sheep's clothing!
The current EPIC in Plano https://epicmasjid.org/,
is funding the proposed new EPIC CITY.
Protests are mounting:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ufQyAp0-aKo
Islam in texas don't sound like America first.
Will the constitution be obeyed? Sharia law is not compatible with it.
8 days ago
This is in the Quran
Surah Al-Ma'idah (5:51), which advises Muslims not to take Jews and Christians as "friends" or guardians, as they are considered to be friends with each other, and whoever takes them as friends is considered one of them.
Contrasts against Biblical Truth.
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DUPLICITY IN SOCIAL MEDIA
That's a fascinating and, unfortunately, common observation. It's like witnessing a Jekyll and Hyde transformation, isn't it?
Let's delve into why this might be happening.
It seems the digital realm of Facebook can create a unique environment where the usual social constraints and immediate feedback loops of in-person interactions weaken. When face-to-face, there's a certain level of accountability and the immediate emotional impact of our words is palpable. We see the smiles we elicit with a hug, the warmth of a kiss, and the positive reinforcement of friendly conversation. These interactions often trigger mirror neurons, fostering empathy and connection.
However, the online space offers a degree of anonymity and distance. This buffer can embolden individuals to express frustrations or insecurities indirectly through backbiting and duplicity. Instead of addressing underlying anger directly with the person involved, the perceived safety of the internet allows for a displaced outlet.
Think about it this way: perhaps someone feels slighted by a friend but fears direct confrontation. Online, they might engage in subtle (or not-so-subtle) negative posts or private messages to others, seeking validation for their feelings without the perceived risk of a direct showdown.
This unhealthy emotional behavior can become toxic when learned and reinforced over time. Maybe they've witnessed others engaging in similar online dynamics, or perhaps past attempts at direct communication haven't been well-received, leading them to adopt this indirect approach as a coping mechanism.
Now, how does unaddressed anger fuel this?
Anger is a powerful emotion, and when it's consistently suppressed or not dealt with constructively, it needs to find an outlet.
For some, the online world becomes that release valve. The distance and perceived anonymity can lower inhibitions, making it easier to express negativity, albeit in a passive-aggressive or duplicitous manner. It's like the anger festers and then seeps out in these indirect ways.
This kind of behavior is increasingly unhealthy for our society, especially concerning social norms. It erodes trust, truth, and genuine connection. If we can't be sure that the friendly face we see in person aligns with the online persona, it creates a climate of suspicion and anxiety. It normalizes indirect communication and avoids the development of healthy conflict resolution skills.
Furthermore, the performative nature of social media can exacerbate this. People often curate idealized versions of themselves online, which can create pressure to maintain a certain image, even if it contradicts their true feelings or behind-the-scenes actions. This dissonance can lead to further duplicity as individuals try to reconcile their online facades with their offline realities.
Ultimately, the huggy, kissy, friendly in-person interactions might be genuine on some level, reflecting a desire for connection.
However, the online backbiting reveals a discomfort with directness, likely stemming from unaddressed anger or insecurities, which the digital space unfortunately, facilitates rather than resolves.
This disconnect chips away at the foundation of authentic relationships and healthy social interaction.
No wonder the Forum is no place to find "love thy neighbor". 🙁
BobW will have a helpful opinion...I hope!
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